During a recent “hair therapy session” I had the BEST conversation with my stylist about seasons of life.
I shared how during some phases of adulthood I squelched who I am out of fear of what others might think. For example, when I got my nose-pierced 9 years ago I considered taking my nose ring out when I sang on worship team because I thought others might not think it’s appropriate. I can laugh about it now because I totally know that wouldn’t be the case but my insecurity nearly paralyzed me.
There was even a season when I wouldn’t take off my swimsuit cover up at the pool because I didn’t want to draw attention to myself. What I realize now is that being the only one IN a cover up in 100 degree temps drew more attention than if I had just uncovered and worn my suit. Y’all I was in the best shape of my life at that time so it wasn’t about the external, it was a false belief on the inside that had taken root.
Why am I sharing this with you? Because I know I’m not alone. There are many other men and women walking around trapped in insecurity but this isn’t God’s way.
Romans 12:1-2 (the Message Bible ): “So here’s what I want you to do, God helping you: Take your everyday, ordinary life—your sleeping, eating, going-to-work, and walking-around life—and place it before God as an offering. Embracing what God does for you is the best thing you can do for him. Don’t become so well-adjusted to your culture that you fit into it without even thinking. Instead, fix your attention on God. You’ll be changed from the inside out. Readily recognize what he wants from you, and quickly respond to it. Unlike the culture around you, always dragging you down to its level of immaturity, God brings the best out of you, develops well-formed maturity in you.”
What’s helped me more anything has been getting to the root issues and throwing them out the window. I was so wrapped up in shame, fear and doubt that they were clouding my vision of who God created me to be. Doing the heart work wasn’t easy emotionally but it’s been worth it because as I’ve grown more confident in my relationship with God, the more secure I’ve become in my identity. The result? A freer and more confident me!!!!
So what are some steps you can take to break the chains of insecurity? First, have a conversation with God about it and allow Him in to heal you. Then tune your heart to God’s frequency rather than the static of the world and watch Him work in your life! It will take effort on your part and may require you to step out in faith before you can see what lay ahead but sister friend, He’s got you!
The freedom we have in Christ is not something that can be borrowed and it was bought at a very high price. It’s a free gift from God that’s waiting for you. How will you respond?